Have you ever seen a child and wished you were as free as them?
You might fear for their safety or want them to behave like you were taught.
Once upon a time you were free with your self expression before inhibited by the rules of engagement that we all are governed by in our families and society. Rules become part of our identity that are designed to keep us safe but the roles we find ourselves in can then feel like we are trapped in a straight jacket of inhibitions and we need to discover our naturalness all over again.
Embodiment is your increased capacity to feel the tender longings of your heart and body connected with your mind.
There are thousands of intelligent neuro transmitters in your heart and belly that the bodies natural defense responses to stress keeps us separated from. Most of the time we are in split attention in action survival mode and sometimes we only get to feel or know whats happened afterwards. We say to ourselves "Why didnt I trust my intuition? or worse still, we experience dreadful emotional hangovers from 'going along with' and tolerating our own or others directions. Our head is not the best director of our lives when our heart intelligence is not part of the decision making.
Embodiment sessions heal whats taken you into separation. As your receptivity to feel more increases your decision making can have the benefits of hindsight in each moment with a fuller picture to advise you from.
This is living a consensual life with the fuller picture to trust in relaxation to make your decisions from.
I support you discovering what you need to feel safe enough to feel more to trust in your intuition and discover your strengths and inner resources so you can learn to listen to your inner guides. There are parts of you that are kind and want you to overcome all that's in the way of your relaxation, pleasure, expansion, learning, sexual expression and naturalness. I guide you step by step through a process that supports you to be liberated from the straight jacket of projection into the fullest receptivity with whats true for you so you can overcome your fears and raise your confidence into making the changes that you are wanting to make in your life.
Are you going along with whats not right for you?
Consensual life™ areas of exploration.
Consensual Touch. This is a step by step immersion into the dynamics of touch. Learning the difference between giving and taking and receiving and allowing will revolutionise your life. This is rewiring the nervous system back into trust. The degree to which we can receive pleasure is in correlation to our availability to relax. I teach you how to increase your receptivity to touch with presence from deep relaxation and safety. This involves listening and being listened to and the relief that graitude brings when we've received what feeds and nourishes us.
Looking Beautiful You will naturally learn as you relax along the way that when you share more of yourself, that becomes more lovable than whats hiding your beauty.
When you are relaxed in your Parasympathetic Nervous system, old comparisons and shame around your body image gradually melt away and you discover the freedom that your naturalness has been waiting for you to appreciate. I will guide you in easy and excruciating birthing of the natural you liberated from comparisons. Remember people in advertisements are air brushed and that beauty is not based in anything more than your heart smiling through your cells. Ask yourself what makes a person beautiful to be with? its certainly not colour of skin, type of body or straight teeth. You won't know this till your sympathetic nervous system has disengaged so don't worry if it sounds far fetched for you now.
Trauma healing "We've all been touched in ways we didn't ask for or want" - Betty Martin.
When we have been hurt or have opened our bodies in adaption without choice having something happen to us or be done to us, our bodies close and our hearts often close into loneliness and confusion with needing intimacy and relationships but not knowing how to negotiate them without feeling invaded.
I can support you overcoming inhibitions and fears that are embedded in your nervous system and we create the hope and possibilities for you to feel safe enough to relax back into trust. I provide safe and easy steps into managing these sometimes automatic out of control anxiety/panic/dissociative responses using consensual touch and body focusing in small enough experiences that don't take you off line. If you do go off line in a session, I am experienced and trained with holding you safe until it passes and supporting you back gently into reconnecting again. Through this process, you will learn agency and gain confidence in your life.
Remember trust is learnt and earnt and these sessions will support you to regain trust with your decisions and boundaries and learn what you need for protecting what matters.
If you worry or you're convinced that you don't matter and that you might as well hide away and not let anyone near you, you've come to the right place to safely renegotiate this isolation.
Experiencing ejaculatory choice This is very common problem and youve come to the right place to support you overcoming this often embarrassing and disappointing experience. I do not just teach pelvic floor control of ejaculation which is just another control route to what is a deeper body motivation. I teach re firing new neural pathways roots between the sex and heart to increase the bodies capacity to feel strong sensations without it blowing a fuse.
There can be many reasons why a persons body takes them out of the feeling before they've experienced enough of the pleasure in the experience. One reason can be that the body hasn't accessed the para-sympathitic nervous system adequately to actually have the capacity to feel. This is common with people living busy lives where there are high demands or stress with achievement goals. Another common reason is that your body might be used to masturbating quickly in private from a young age and the same neural pathways are established when you want to be close to another and being in witnessed pleasure.
Its as simple as firing up new routes to achieve this capacity to overcome the shame inhibitors that many adolescents develop. These, of course, stop being useful when in a relationship.
Another reason my be fears that have no specific name silently interrupting relaxing with intimacy. I support you easily uncovering these into increasing your confidence and kindness with yourself so relaxation and intimacy become easy and pleasurable.
Another reason can be developmental changes in your life and body which require you to re-discover new connections inside of you from the ones that have stopped working. I guide you effortlessly with easy step by step guidance that support your body to have an increased capacity for pleasure and feeling.
Erectile Dysfunction. Manifests in different ways. It may be that developmentally your sexuality now needs new routes to arousal establishing. This is very common for us all as we mature. Many people express that their sex has stopped working like it used to. There may be unconscious inhibitors silently driving you and we can explore if biochemical/hormonal balances are contributing factors. I have in my international team of advisors leading edge teachings available.
Confidence in Intimacy. Sessions are deeply relaxing and we learn with humour and pleasure into the joys of being confident and present in intimacy. I will teach you everything you didn't get taught in sex education like the anatomy of arousal, genital configurations, boundaries and consent and how to be more of yourself in relaxation with another.
Everyone relaxes in different ways and I can support you into the route that works for you that you can then apply to your life.
Body Mapping Discover the maps of your body integrating the subjective and objective sense of self and identity. This can release buried feeling states repressed and held in the body tissue. What we feel in each part of our body is in relation to a bio feedback loop and sometimes we have an inaccurate map of our bodies in our brains which makes it impossible to know where and when to touch. Imagine if you never touched or looked at yourself;- you would not have ANY maps to guide you. This means that you would NOT be in consent in intimacy with yourself or with another. It would be the blind leading the blind! Closing your eyes when engaged in touch is another matter and does actually deepen receptivity to sensation. Most of us have at least a sketch available but that leads to hit and miss intimacy.
Getting your Libido back We can explore rekindling lost desire and transforming from numb, shut down and not interested into feeling again whats right for you. Your sex might be behaving differently to before or you might be experiencing discomfort or pain and want to feel receptive again.
Coming Together for couples wanting to break out of the formula that's not working anymore. You might be avoiding addressing loneliness with your partner in relation to your sexual or intimacy needs and want to find a way back into connection. I support you both to untangle what feels confusing. This is an opportunity to build bridges and walk across them into each others worlds to understand and deepen your compassion with each other. Finding your kindness and humility with each other is very often the relief and break though we are longing for to laugh again with each other. Learn how to have a bath together that's the right temperature for everyone.
Solo Pleasure Discovering what you want first before allowing another to do to you what they have done in the past to someone else! Whatever has worked in the past is not a guarantee! I will create for you an orgasmic yoga practice for you to connect with the source of you. This really does change your life's vibration with everything you do!
Recover me. This is for you to recover your self after loss, bereavement or separation from your partner. A place to come and heal and rekindle the base of you ready to love again. You might be wanting to learn how to make the first steps again after the loss of a relationship.
Scar Tissue Remediation Healing the scars of healed over wounds from operations or accidents. We all carry scars, some small, some big, very few of us get away without any injuries in our lifetimes. They are part of our vintage and they can mature us more deeply when we heal the contracted tissue in and around them. It is possible to liberate the contracted, restricted skin and flesh in healed over wounds increasing sensitivity and feelings flowing again. Scars from injuries can affect body image, cause pain or limiting function. eg spinal cord injuries, vulva scaring from childbirth, genital circumcision, scaring from prostrate operations, mastectomy scars, Caesarian section scars, etc. The trauma to the body can be liberated relieving emotional and physical pain from being stuck in there bringing back naturalness, sensation and feelings.
Gender Reassignment People having gone through this life changing surgery may need to navigate whole new routes to arousal with the possibility of orgasm limited also by the scar tissue, pain and/or numbness from the trauma of the surgery held in the layers of the skin.
One of my clients who has experienced such intense pain in her newly formed clitoris was advised surgery to cut it. Thank fully this tragedy didn't happen after all her pain of surgery to create it! In just 7 sessions with a daily home practice program, this woman is now experiencing her new routes in arousal which could have forever been denied her. She is now trained as a Certified Sexological bodyworker and specialises in this area facilitating leading edge body mapping which helps the development of new neural pathways alongside using specialist massage to soften and remove the scar tissue. Contact me for referral to her.
Discover what drives your life choices. This is referred to as your ""Core erotic theme" - Jack Morin. Working with these HIDDEN drivers can support you consciously and with self awareness understand the unique combination of ingredients that influence your decisions - ones your happy with and un happy with! Sometimes we are driven by what Jack Morin calls "troublesome turn ons" these are past experiences energised for healing through sexual expression.
Surrogacy. This makes exploring and experimenting with love-making skills supported and safe with the me choreographing the step by step experiences. The Surrogates I use are highly trained and experienced.
I welcome you, in confidence, to get in touch with me and we can find a way forward for you.
"My body is changing and its not working or looking like it used to. I want me back!"
My intent is to support you into into the liberation of being in choice with your intimate decisions.
I want to trust myself
When we have been hurt or have opened our bodies in adaption, saying yes when we are really saying no, our bodies close and our hearts often close into loneliness and confusion with needing intimacy but not knowing how to negotiate it without feeling invaded.
I want to know what I want.
I will guide you step by step into your opening again.
I will guide you into over come blocks to you being in pleasure with your body.
I will teach you how to listen to your body to trust your yes and no.
I will teach you everything you didn't get taught in sex education.
Why am I like this?
We can explore the art of seduction rekindling lost desire and exploring and discovering what turns you on.
I will guide you in easy and excruciating birthing of the natural you.
I want kindness and to feel free.
I've just arrived, am I too late?
I will guide you step by step overcoming destroyed confidence. I will teach you the mysteries of arousal.
My intent is to support you back into welcoming yourself being received in your potency.
Do you want to know how to get invited in?
I want to know what to do once I'm there.
Session offer you a bridge back into connection or for some into connection for the first time
Are you wishing you could enjoy the journey for longer?
I will teach you everything you didn't get taught and why you are as you are and how you can be more of who you want to be.
I will support you discovering the keys to your opening.
If you are single and wanting a relationship, we can explore and liberate you from any negative patterns of attraction so you welcome in what might nourishes and fulfill you.
I will guide you into developing new neural pathways with easy to learn and practice methods that support your body staying in pleasure for longer.
I will teach you how to get out of your head and into the bed.
I will support you into embodiment of your pleasure and sexual confidence.
I will guide you in the easy birthing of your potency liberated from comparison.
How do I gain control so I can let go at the same time?
I will be with you every step of the way in liberating you from fear into relaxation and confidence.
You can do this when you are embodied.
We've stopped dancing to the tunes we used to play together.
Are you asking "How can we break out of this?"
I support you both into playing together again so the adults can have some fun!
I want us to make love again.
I support you both to untangle and bridge your two worlds to being you both back into co-empowering each other out of loneliness.
We are lonely with each other but the best of friends.
I support you releasing your relationship from the formulas that once upon a time were exciting and nurturing but now have lost their lustre.
I want to honeymoon again.
I support you discovering each other again and coming out of hiding and discovering yourself in new ways.
I want to be found.
Sometimes we need support from outside the relationship to facilitate our journey back into connection with each other again learning what other tunes we could be playing together.
I will support you to find your humour and humility again with each other.