I design Consensual Life™ Liberation programs unique to you into blocks of 4 sessions supporting your relaxed decision to invest in the changes that you are wanting to make.
After our free exploration phone conversation or skype meeting, if you decide that embodiment is for you, we book a two or three hour in person session to assess and explore what your'e seeking to change. This will involve experiential exercises and bodywork. If you are wishing to be coached on skype we will book a further hour-long Skype/Zoom assessment session.
These are the areas of speciality I offer.
Consensual Touch. How to Touch and be Touched. Learning how to touch and receive touch you want. This is a step by step immersion into the dynamics of touch. Learning the difference between giving and taking and receiving and allowing will revolutionise your life. This is rewiring the nervous system back into trust. The degree to which we can receive pleasure is in correlation to our availability to relax. I teach you how to increase your receptivity to touch with presence from deep relaxation and safety. Whenever we are touched with deep presence and attention, it feels good and opens the body into receiving more.
Healing Body Image Getting into your body and out of your head and create your body beautiful. I will teach you how to get out of your head and into the bed of your body from shy to creative expression of your naturalness and confidence. I welcome you to get in touch and I will guide you in easy and excruciating birthing of the natural you liberated from comparison.
Trauma healing When we have been hurt or have opened our bodies in adaption, saying yes when we are really saying no, our bodies close and our hearts often close into loneliness and confusion with needing intimacy but not knowing how to negotiate it without feeling invaded. I can support you in overcoming inhibitions and fears in your nervous system back into trust with the neural pathway rewiring using consensual touch and body focusing. You might be wanting to overcome and heal past traumas that inhibit your potential and possibilities being intimate with yourself and with another.
From blanket “NO” to choice, integrity, trust and freedom.
Experiencing ejaculatory choice 'It's over with before I've felt it”. This is very common problem and youve come to the right place to support you overcoming this often embarrassing and disappointing experience. I do not just teach pelvic floor control of ejaculation which is just another control route to what is a deeper body motivation. I teach re firing new neural pathways roots between the sex and heart to increase the bodies capacity to feel strong feeling states of pleasure and ecstasy without it blowing a fuse. There can be many reasons why a persons body takes them out of the feeling before they've experienced enough of the pleasure in the experience. One reason can be that the body hasn't accessed the para-sympathitic nervous system adequately to actually have the capacity to feel. This is common with people living busy lives where there are high demands or stress with achievement goals. Another common reason is that your body might be used to masturbating quickly in private from a young age and the same neural pathways are established when you want to be close to another and being in witnessed pleasure. Its as simple as firing up new routs to achieve this capacity to overcome the shame inhibitors that many adolescents develop that stop being useful when in a relationship. Another reason my be fears that have no specific name silently interrupting surrender into pleasure and intimacy. I support you easily uncovering these into increasing your confidence and kindness with yourself so relaxation and intimacy become easy and pleasurable. Another reason can be developmental changes in your life and body which require you to re-discover new connections inside of you from the ones that have stopped working. I guide you effortlessly with easy step by step guidance that support your body to have an increased capacity for pleasure and feeling.
Erectile Dysfunction. Manifests in different ways. It may be that developmentally your sexuality now needs new routes to arousal establishing. This is very common for us all as we mature. Many people express that their sex has stopped working like it used to. There may be unconscious inhibitors silently driving you that we can uncover and liberate you from. We can explore if biochemical/hormonal balances are contributing factors and I have in my international team of advisors leading edge teachings available. I will guide you into easy step by step practice to overcoming erectile dysfunction.
Confidence in Intimacy. Sessions are deeply relaxing and we learn with humour and pleasure into the joys of being confident and present in intimacy. We can explore the art of seduction and you feeling in your power with integrity. I will teach you everything you didn't get taught in sex education.
Deeply Touched sessions. Experience your body relaxing to its natural default liberated from stress. Discovering the heights and depths of your bodies capacity for presence and pleasure. Combining leading edge anatomy knowledge, Taoist and Tantric touch and ancient eastern wisdom, you will discover the ecstasy available inside.
You are inviting yourself into a journey into the center of now discovering new maps of you and being present in pleasure released from being at the effects of time, emotionality and others.
Imagine your entire body humming with neurotransmitters connected with your unconscious and dream life. Imagine feeling your body deeply relaxed and alive teaching you what your life is all about. Imagine the relief of letting go and surrendering into trusting your flowing and spontaneity.
Everyone relaxes in different ways and I can support you into the route that works for you that you can then apply to your life. We tune in together through warming up exercises which take you on a journey discovering your desires with the letting go the distractions in the way of your relaxation. Feeling your body streaming in waves of permission.
“The experience was extraordinary. To allow someone to make me so very, deeply relaxed, in itself was wonderful, and liberating. To then be invited on a journey to a different world of sexual consciousness, was a gentle delight, culminating in a never before experienced sense of warmth and glow.”— Devon
Body Mapping Discover the maps of your body integrating the subjective and objective sense of self and identity with understanding. Healing the parts of you that went underground that become silent drivers in your life. This can release buried feeling states repressed and held in the body tissue. The brain also literally objectifies our body parts and we can even trick the brain into thinking something that is not our body is! What we feel in each part of our body is in relation to a bio feedback loop and sometimes we have an inaccurate map of our bodies in our brains which makes it impossible to know where and when to touch. Imagine if you never touched or looked at yourself;- you would not have ANY maps to guide you. This means that you would NOT be in consent in intimacy with yourself or with another. It would be the blind leading the blind! Closing your eyes when engaged in touch is another matter and does actually deepen receptivity to sensation. Most of us have at least a sketch available but that leads to hit and miss intimacy.
Erogenous zones Learning the genital types, genital anatomy, anal anatomy and how to deepen arousal and orgasm experiences. You might be wanting to learn about genital anatomy and erogenous zones and to understand the secrets of sexuality expanding your skills in giving and receiving.
Getting your Libido back We can explore rekindling lost desire and exploring and discovering what turns you on. Transforming from numb, shut down and not interested into feeling again whats right for you. Your sex might be behaving differently to before or you might be experiencing numbness, discomfort or pain and want to feel receptive again. I will teach you the mysteries of arousal.
Coming Together for couples wanting to break out of the formula that's not working anymore. You might be avoiding addressing loneliness with your partner in relation to your sexual or intimacy needs and want to find a way back into connection. I support you both to untangle what feels confusing. This is an opportunity to build bridges and walk across them into each others worlds to understand and deepen your compassion with each other. Finding your kindness and humility with each other is very often the relief and break though we are longing for to laugh again with each other. Learn how to have a bath together that's the right temperature for everyone.
Solo Pleasure Discovering what you want first before allowing another to do to you what they have done in the past to someone else! Whatever has worked in the past is not a guarantee! I will create for you an orgasmic yoga practice for you to connect with the source of you. This really does change your life's vibration with everything you do!
Recover me. This is for you to recover your self after loss, bereavement or separation from your partner. A place to come and heal and rekindle the base of you ready to love again. You might be wanting to learn how to make the first steps again after the loss of a relationship.
Scar Tissue Remediation Healing the scars of healed over wounds from operations or accidents. We all carry scars, some small, some big, very few of us get away without any injuries in our lifetimes. They are part of our vintage and they can mature us more deeply when we heal the contracted tissue in and around them. It is possible to liberate the contracted, restricted skin and flesh in healed over wounds increasing sensitivity and feelings flowing again. This program is taken most commonly from people with scars from injuries that affecting body image, causing emotional pain or limiting function. eg spinal cord injuries, vulva scaring from childbirth, Penis scaring from circumcision, scaring from prostrate operations, mastectomy scars, Caesarian section scars, etc. The stories and the trauma can be liberated relieving emotional and physical pain from being stuck in there bringing back naturalness, sensation and feelings.
Gender Reassignment People having gone through this life changing surgery may need to navigate whole new routes to arousal with the possibility of orgasm limited also by the scar tissue, pain and/or numbness from the trauma of the surgery held in the layers of the skin.
One of my clients who has experienced such intense pain in her newly formed clitoris was advised surgery to cut it. Thank fully this tragedy didn't happen after all her pain of surgery to create it! In just 7 sessions with a daily home practice program, this woman is now experiencing her new routes in arousal which could have forever been denied her. She is now trained as a Certified Sexological bodyworker and specialises in this area facilitating leading edge body mapping which helps the development of new neural pathways alongside using specialist massage to soften and remove the scar tissue. Contact me for referral to her.
I want a Partner Loving yourself to be loved by another. You might be wanting to welcome in a relationship but need support with confidence how to be a great lover. If you are single and wanting to attract the right person for you, we can explore and liberate you from any negative patterns of attraction so you welcome in what really nourishes and full fills you.
Giving Pleasure. I guide you step by step into the art of giving pleasure drawing from the wisdom of ancient cultures fused leading edge teachings in western Somatic Sexology. In depth massage techniques are taught alongside genital anatomy and erogenous zones to give you confidence in how and where to touch for the best receptivity to send your partner wild and or deeply relax them (which ever they have asked for right?). So often we leave it all to our partners to guess what we like, or do to us what might have worked with a previous partner. This is an end to failed telepathy!
Sexual Expression Discover your core erotic theme that drives your life. This can reveal your motivations into consciousness and support you understanding the unique combination of ingredients that raise your energies so you can bring them into your life with consciousness instead of them being hidden drivers. Sometimes we are driven by what Jack Morin calls "troublesome turn ons" these are past experiences energised for healing through sexual expression.
Know your power Explore your relationship with trust and total surrender. These are sessions where you can experience a deep letting go safely through the art of shibari. I occasionally run workshops in this wonderful way to totally let go.
Surrogacy. This is a program designed for people wishing to engage fully with a Surrogate of their gender/sexual orientation choice. It is a triad approach to intimacy that works very effectively with both people entering into potentially aroused states where the neo-cortex part of the brain that makes decisions, literally dis-engages from rational consensual decision making. This makes exploring and experimenting with love-making skills supported and safe with the other therapist choreographing the step by step experiences. The Surrogates I use are highly trained and experienced. A surcharge is applicable for Liberation Triangle sessions.
I welcome you, in confidence, to get in touch with me and we can find a way forward for you.
To book your free exploration telephone conversation with me, click here.
The 4 session foundation liberation program
Creating the foundations of liberation.
Liberation from the strategies that are holding you back from your freedom in this area.
The first stage is designed to support you uncovering and listening to what you want.
This is the beginning of creating dialogue opportunities for bridging where you are lonely or disconnected with your feelings, purpose, wants, needs, desires, demands, passions, lusts and what is tender in you with what you are longing for.
We then engage with bespoke exercises and bodywork created and adapted to you.
These are designed for:-
Throughout the sessions, I will teach class above the class with you why and how what we are doing works.
I share with you teachings along the way to enhance your experience, healing and learning drawing from multiple perspectives. These may include for example anatomy teachings, intimacy dynamics of giving, receiving, taking and allowing, intimacy teachings and the laws of nature in relation to our instinctual drives and routes of arousal. I am throughout each year attending trainings myself and so when ever you meet me, its an experiment as I weave in leading edge understandings of this time.
Session 2, 3 and 4 are developed in alignment with what you are experiencing and what you are wanting to overcome and achieve experiencing. These sessions are a deepening of the foundations that your body is trusting and growing from. I have designed specific formulas for each presenting quest that are tried and tested in many different ways for achieving successful results. Each Liberation formula comes alive in unique ways with each person. Most of these programs overlap but there will be focus in each session with the main aspect you are wanting to engage with.
The number of 4 session blocks will vary depending on which areas you are wanting to overcome and your availability to be receptive to change which I help you with enhancing along the way as a natural part of the process.
An example is ejaculatory choice can be achieved by some people in as little as 6-8 sessions with the remaining sessions embedding the new pathways depending on how the nervous system responds. Very often, there are different underlying causes needing attention alongside the presenting pattern of expression so its never so simple to say what number of sessions can be predicted. There are differences in all of us with our relationship with intimacy and connections with our sexuality. This will be what we assess together with reviews.
The success of my method
The success of my method depends upon supporting you to develop new neural pathways. In order for this to happen, I will recommend the frequency and number of sessions over a period of time that will effectively support you to make the changes you are wanting to achieve. Liberation programs are individually designed to support your unique route into relaxation and embodiment. Everyone's nervous systems have been trained in different ways out of alignment with whats natural and so supporting you in retraining you back into your integrity will utilise different aspects of my reportoire. I always find a way as I deeply understand the myriad of ways we humans get trapped in hiding. I am a master of hide and seek as it was a disaster for me to be found as a child but its more of a disaster to stay hidden for the rest of my life.
"Its a joy to be hidden but a disaster never to be found"
-Donald Winnicott "Playing and Reality"
I have journeyed deep into this territory and I will keep you safe as you come out of hiding and back into connection with your tender heart. This is for the brave and I honour your courage. All Liberation plans include in between session support, homework schedule, and the price of professional clinical supervision providing you with all the security and confidence in the integrity of your program.
We review your progress as you move through each stage deepening the new neural pathways and celebrating your achievements. Depending on how intensely you would like to work, you can schedule sessions weekly, fortnightly or monthly. I set you easy home practice in-between sessions and you have as part of a program support by email.