Why are we like water?
"By exposing water to a particular word or piece of music, freezing it, and photographing the ice crystals formed, Dr. Emoto has shown that from beautiful words and music, come beautiful crystals, and from mean-spirited, negative words, come malformed and misshapen crystals. The adult human body is approximately 70% water and infant bodies are about 90% water."
-Dr. Emoto The Hidden Messages in Water,
Being loved as we are rather than who we or anybody else wants us to be is true liberation.
"Its a joy to be hidden but a disaster never to be found" D W Winnicott.
Over the last 15 years, I have developed a successful approach that is now used as part of training sexuality professionals in supporting healing body image. This is a step by step journey into undressing that eventually feels the most natural place to be.
Its a guided journey into the body mind that is unique for each person at the beginning but once we have started the journey, we all have one thing in common, that is a body that can be visited as if for the first time ever. The first part of the un dressing experience is out of sight, private and in front of me at the same time which can feel hugely liberating. This is where the experience can end and clothes put on again for sufficient digestion of the experience to be experienced.
The pain and fear is in the getting there rather than the eventual reality of being naked and witnessed. THIS is what I make easy for you!
Most problems occur when getting undressed when its is done unconsciously, too quickly, without the body's authentic consent in adaption to another's request or expectation. How often have you taken off your clothes because that's the done thing or what is expected? I have successfully taught many people how to easily be in their integrity and authenticity when uncovering into intimacy.
"We get our insides from the outside first"
When you are ready, the next stage is using your hand to give me a guided tour of your body led by your body rather than your mind. I teach you the difference between body and mind led actions. I give you my finest attention and through this experience you and I discover together what you hadn't "seen" before and in this process there is the opportunity to re frame limiting reflections into more enriched ones. Very often we are carrying around in our bodies what someone once said about us that may or may not be true.
Can you heal body image without getting undressed?
Yes, I facilitate groups and individual sessions where people successfully re frame and come away with more enriched versions of themselves. People love what they see we love about ourselves, not necessarily what is thought to be the ideal. What we actually look like and accepting and celebrating that is much more sexy than meeting the criteria of objectified ideals but not loving ourselves. I can show you an easy route into this journey into self love that will change how you live your life in your body.
If you look at a glass of water with love, its crystaline structure changes. This also applies to our bodies. When we are witnessed with loving eyes our skin blossoms and glows, our energy and vibration increases and we become more beautiful and more potent in the world. Comparison with ideals whether we are applying this to our bodies, our lives or our relationships does the opposite. These are lessons in how we can be naked and feel our shining being shown us.